Powerful blogpost on the pastor’s wife.
April 4, 2011
June 18, 2009
Great article here about fathers.
Rather than being in conflict, fathers and mothers balance each other’s parenting styles – helping each other raise well-rounded children.
Fathers tend to emphasize rough and tumble play more than mothers do. Fathers’ play is likely to be both physically stimulating and mentally exciting. This form of play helps children learn about physical self-control and what is appropriate playful behavior, and what is dangerous. Through this type of play, Fathers help children learn to control their wild emotions and have fun in the midst of competition. Fathers tend to encourage competition, challenge, initiative, risk-taking, and independence.
In conversations, fathers tend to be more direct and specific – teaching children not to ‘beat around the bush’. They stress fairness and justice while mothers tend to focus more on sympathy and care. Fathers focus more on independence while mothers tend to stress community and relationships. Fathers tend to be firmer when decisions are made. Fathers are generally more apt to consider the long-term development of their children, while mothers tend to consider immediate needs.
Together, mothers and fathers show children the values and strengths of both of the genders. The social revolution of the last fifty years has greatly degraded men. Fathers help girls to appreciate and value men, and show boys their value as men.
August 11, 2008
I figure that makes about as much sense as the über-hep-cat-yo-dog-g-money ECMmer “Manic Music Monday” type of spiffy-artsy, My incredible cultural relevance can beat up your honor student blogpost.
So…let’s get our yadnom on.
Some of the things round ’bout the ‘net that have piqued my interest, and should pique yours…
- The People’s Democratic Republic of Redmond sees and end to the Windows era, and is even planning on it. Da, komrade.
- In the Road Warrior category, Delta (an airline which already has my vote just because they’re not United) is set to add WiFi to domestic flights in 2009.
- Surfer dude Garrett Lisi has come up with a fresh, new Unified Theory of Everything which unifies the Standard Model with gravity, sidestepping String Theory entirely. Given that I’m not sold on ST, I really like Garrett’s theory – even though to be honest, I don’t understand it. Ironic, given his title for it.
- John Piper lists six reasons pastors should blog.
- Turns out, not only is information not destroyed by black holes, but it doesn’t stay trapped in them forever, either, and eventually “leaks” back out. This has profound implications RE: Einsteinian relativity.
- Talking about black holes, the lower end of the mass limit for a black hole has been observationally verified.
- And this should come as no surprise at all to anybody who either ever misunderstood, or was misunderstood…turns out that believing is seeing, and not the other way around.
- Atomic radiation may not be as deadly as previously thought.
- The wonderful, weird properties of glass.
- Want a mind-reading hat that can predict a brain fart?
- And on the subject of brains, turns out that coffee protects ’em.
- Us stupid humans are shortening the life of the universe.
- Hypothetically youngest planet observed.
- The secret to raising smart kids.
- I disagree with the author’s contention that Star Trek ever “jumped the shark,” but an amusing read anyway…
- Chalcedon contrasts the atomistic, domestic, and trustee families.
- Delivered in 1998, but still relevant, Dr. Danny Faulkner critiques the current state of Creation astronomy.
And there you have it. To both of my readers: enjoy.
July 24, 2008
One of the quotes from the article:
Parker writes almost poetically about the ultimate beauty of men’s innate character. When she looks at her own father and fathers around her, she concludes that being a dad is, in fact, the manliest thing a man can do.
It encourages responsibility, sacrifice and the ability to put others before yourself – all essential qualities to a functioning society, let alone a home.
‘When we take away a man’s central purpose in life and marginalise him from society’s most important institution (the family), we strip him of his manhood.’
And it’s not all we strip away, as studies have discovered here. We reduce a child’s chance of a successful and happy life.
‘Growing up without a father is the most reliable indicator of poverty and all the familiar social pathologies affecting children, including drug abuse, truancy, delinquency and sexual promiscuity. Yet some feminists and other progressives still insist that men are non-essential.’
The powerful argument Parker constructs is that unless we wake up, and wake up quickly, to the importance of men in family life, society as we know it is doomed. In the creation of a more female friendly world, we have unwittingly created a culture hostile to men, not in the workplace, but the most important place, the home.
How refreshingly honest, how devoid of political correctness or feminist dogma for a woman to argue for and ultimately celebrate the necessity and the goodness of men.
Now, of course you know what my response is going to be: “Look, guys…suck it up, stop whining about how unappreciated you are, and don’t wait for ‘permission’ to lead – lead! While you’re huddled in a corner rocking yourself in a fetal position because society’s gone girly and you can’t catch a break, your family is suffering. So get over yourselves, and start doing what you were created to do.”
…that being said, I loved Amanda’s article, and I think I’m going to need to get the book for myself.
April 13, 2008
Very interesting article here.
September 3, 2007
Okay, so I’ve been a bit slack on the blog for the last few weeks.
I wanted to let all my readers (both of you) know why.
Early this year, a thirteen-year-old girl on the other side of the state made a series of less-than-wise decisions… and nine months later, she gave birth to a healthy – a screamin’ healthy – baby boy.
Back up a few months.
My lovely and gracious wife and I have had a heart for adoption since before we were married. We’ve gone through the process of adoption seven times for eleven children, but each time the doors had been closed, for a wide variety of reasons.
Early this year, my lovely and gracious wife was sharing at a ladies’ retreat for a Calvary Chapel from the other side of the state. She has a great relationship with several of the ladies from that fellowship, and after her session, she was sitting with two ladies in particular; one of them shared that her grand-daughter, whom she had legal custody over and whom she had been raising since she was an infant, was pregnant. She (the girl) could not raise her child, and she (the grandmother) could not raise her great-grand-daughter. Long story short, my lovely and gracious wife was asked to pray about adopting the boy (by this time, I think, they already knew his gender).
I had just accepted a new position with a new company as a contract “adjunct faculty” educator, which created a substantial fiscal hiccup – plus now needing to obtain my own health insurance, withhold my own taxes, etc. So we were not in a financial position to adopt.
I say that, because about that time I read an ECMmer’s blog whini—er, I mean, “complaining” about how “hypocritical” it was that us eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeevil evangelicals are so against infanticide, yet weren’t so big on adoption (as if the lack of the latter justifies the horrific prevalence of the former). Which is a calumny, regardless; major, culturally insensitive, un-hip, we-don’t-care-about-the-poor-and-yet-care-waaaaay-too-much-about-individual-salvation-in-spite-of-what-Pope-N.T.-Wright-Hath-Decreed-yea-verily evangelical organizations like Focus on the Family (an organization in very low esteem among many in the ECM) are strong champions of adoption – darn that confusing-the-issue-with-facts thing that us non-ECMmers meanly like to do, darn us to heck…
Turns out, it’s a rather expensive proposition to adopt a child.
And no, in situations like ours, there are precious little resources which are available to help offset that.
Which is patently ridiculous; when going through the process of adoption, everybody’s got to get their pound of flesh. And by “pound of flesh” I of course mean “several thousand unnecessary dollars”.
The organization that we wound up doing our homestudy with, which is one of the most respected, gave us a huge break at only $2600.
For a homestudy.
For the uninitiated, that’s when some lady who’s got a social studies degree comes in to your house, asks you two or three dozen questions, looks around for a few seconds, goes back to her office, and writes up a mostly accurate report which is then sent to your lawyer.
All for the low-low price of $2600.
I am a pastor. A bivocational pastor. If you do the pastor thing right, you pro’lly don’t have $2600 lying around just waiting to be spent. ;D
Then the lawyers need to get their chunk of pie. Turns out, that for a lawyer to stand around at court all day, chit-chat with other lawyers about various cases, golf courses, the weather, and the latest smack RE: Dancing With The Stars – anything but actually go into court and do something – is quite taxing on a man’s system – but nothing that $200/hour can’t help ameliorate (BTW, it turns out that that price is a huge break on our lawyer’s normal charge, too).
But that’s just the beginning.
I am wondering, more and more as each day passes, why on God’s green earth this has to be so expensive?
Especially since all the liberals cry and wail at how big meanie conservatives want to bring us back to the seventeen hundreds and not let women kill their children, and then won’t take care of the unwanted little products of conception that subsequently have the temerity to be born and wreck our previously idyllic lives. And what with how many “I’m-not-really-a-liberal” liberals, who love a Marxist – er, that is, an über-powerful, centralized, Messianic State, who spare no verbage whacking us iggnit’ konsurvetivz for standing against abortion, waste no effort in trying to make adoption a more accessible option.
Regardless of the extremely high cost, my lovely and gracious wife didn’t have to pray long to hear the prompting of the Spirit and step out in faith to see what the Lord might want to do.
The story of what God then did still blows my mind. Long story short, through the amazing generosity of our church family (local and extended), we were able to get together the funds for the homestudy. I’ll post my lovely and gracious wife’s synopsis of what the Lord did at a later date.
So, fast forward to last week, August 23rd. Baby Masen Elijah was born, just after eight in the evening. Poor lad was born with a club foot – his foot bends inward and up at a greater than 90-degree angle, so for the first two months of his life he’s going to get a new cast every week (I keep telling people that he’s had a skiing accident – you should see the looks I get… tee hee hee…). But he’s such a blessing, such a cute little guy… we just got him a little bitty Red Wings outfit… next week, I’m going to see if we can’t find tiny little skates for him…
…but what all that means is that what little disposable time I’ve had… is now gone. Gloriously, wondrously gone.
In fact, my little alarm clock is resting quiescently next to me on our loveseat while I plunk out this here blogpost.
Soooooo, that’s why I haven’t posted anything for some time. Even though there’s lots to post on:
- A pastor that I’ve respected for some time has been almost completely seduced by the Dark Side and embraced evolution and the “True Myth” hypothesis of the opening chapters of Genesis…
- My increasing suspicion that the Calvinist and Arminian views of salvation aren’t quite as antithetical as the “Me, Smart Calvinist, you, stupid semi-pelagian” would like for us to believe…
- What the ECM actually gets right…
- Taking a cue from Steve McCoy’s recent spate of blogposts RE: his own Southern Baptist Convention, detailing “Why I Hate Us” and “Why I Love Us” (sort of a “here’s what I really don’t like about the SBC” and a “here’s what I really love about the SBC” kind of blogpost series), something along those lines about Calvary Chapel (even though Dan Fusco has sort of trumped me on that one, I have a somewhat/slightly different take on the issues at hand)…
- Some insights RE: the Seven Letters of Revelation, since that’s what we’re going through on Sundays at Calvary Chapel on the Lakeshore…
Now, by the way, for both my readers… on the subject of my boy, my beautiful baby boy… couple of prayer requests:
- There’s still some rather substantial legal hurdles that we have to clear before Masen becomes a Macon. Irritating, unnecessary drama-type hurdles.
- Masen’s contracted conjunctivitis over the weekend – probably getting it at church this last Sunday (his first at CC Lakeshore).
- …and of course, pray that his foot heals completely.
Thanks, y’all… now I need to stand Masen Watch tonight so that my lovely and gracious wife can get some sleep.
May 27, 2007
Dawn Eden analyzes and lends the lie to an article about shame and the abortion industry.